The superiority of experiences has become our era’s reigning banality. “consumers” are turning away from stuff, and even more convincing evidence that Americans are at least gesturing at minimalism: Marie Kondo’s two guides to tidying up—that is, “Japanese art of decluttering and organizing”—have become bestsellers."Big Spender" is performed by Dyan Cannon, accompanied by several dogs, in episode 404 of The Muppet Show. I’m a pharmacist, and I work hard—sometimes six days a week. I make 0,000 a year, and I spend the vast majority of it on experiences—wild, rare, unforgettable experiences.These days, I know exactly what I like and what I don’t. What’s interesting about Tony’s manifesto, though, isn’t that yet another millennial has written an autobiographical think-piece around his lack of self-awareness.If you don’t know, you better find out — especially with Valentine’s Day around the corner. Just because your flame is spoiling you doesn’t mean that he (or she) can afford it. And if not, does he possess the discipline required to throttle back on the spending pedal?Unfortunately, folks who fail to ask those simple questions often end up being led into a financial quagmire.As we’ve worked through these, we’ve learned some lessons along the way.And while I don’t have a magic wand I can wave to fix your marriage, I do have some suggestions from things I’ve learned as a spender married to a saver.
My husband, while very supportive of my efforts to bring our expenses down, really doesn’t have a frugal bone in his body! -Amanda Amanda, I have a good feeling you’re not alone!Our main issue is eating out, and even if I plan ahead for such occasions with restaurant deals and coupons, when it comes right down to it, he’s rarely in the mood for whatever deal I’ve found. He wants to do this, in theory, but in the day to day stuff… In fact, in most marriages, one spouse is the spender and the other spouse is the saver. 🙂 In our marriage, I’m the saver and my husband is the spender.Needless to say, over the ten years we’ve been married, our completely different approaches to money have resulted in numerous disagreements and misunderstandings.I’m very fortunate that my wife and I rarely have a disagreement regarding money.In fact, I can only remember it happening once in over 19 years of marriage — and it was all due to a silly misunderstanding.