This is what I discovered as a customer service rep at JDate in 2001, and it’s the very thing in which I coach private clients every day: writing a unique, confident, specific, self-aware, witty profile that attracts more men and higher quality men; coming up with a one-of-a-kind username that instantly brands you and demands recognition, filtering through the wrong men, funneling the right men from email to the phone to the real life date, keeping a healthy attitude about guys and maintaining an open mind about why they do what they do. In fact, 90% of guys I would never even consider dating.

It’s a lot of stuff, but it’s finite and it can be conquered. Which means that I can’t get upset when I don’t like 90% of the emails I receive.

You just point out all the negative mannerisms and characteristics and tell us what we should do instead. article to do, and one that hopefully will point out to some guys some harmful thinking they might have going on, and things they’re doing with girls that they’re shooting themselves in the feet with. Chase woke up one day in 2004 tired of being alone.

So, he set to work and read every book he could find, studied every teacher he could meet, and talked to every girl he could talk to to figure out dating.

I find them so mass-market, like I bet they copied and pasted and sent to 30 girls without reading about me at all. And yet, despite all of those options for young people here in LA, it’s tough. And unless you get lucky at the Grilled Cheese Invitational or First Fridays on Abbot Kinney, it’s very easy to live in a huge city and never meet any men. Your ad is live for 24 hours a day for men to approach you, and if you log on for 20-30 minutes each day to reply and reach out to one new guy, your social life will instantly pop.

After four years, scads of lays, and many great girlfriends (plus plenty of failures along the way), he launched this website.

I'd like to counter argue the recent article about why girls don't want nice guys; it's untrue and I'm tired of guys hiding behind the excuse.

For example, women want excitement, adventure, mystery and surprise. What's more, the problem with a lot of “nice guys” is that they're fronting like they want to be friends when they really want more.

It's okay to want just a sexual relationship with a woman — totally okay. Don't pretend like you're just her buddy and then sandbag her when she takes you at your word.