To that end, we sometimes put pressure on ourselves to come up with the perfect questions—hoping to quickly ascertain whether or not we’re a match and if we should schedule a second date.

So many people say to me in the clinic, that they don't need testing because they always use condoms...? But the gamification of modern dating is not the future, and it's not healthy. I work in the clinics and do these tests day in and day out, for my patients. In fact, it's all very well to give advice to other people, but when it happens to YOU, it suddenly feels very different. So much, in fact, that you’ve been going on a lot of first dates. You’ve spent all this time learning to approach and attract women, and finally the skills you’ve been developing have been paying dividends.Yes, it's scary to open up to somebody with such a huge level of hurt as a potential outcome. I can convey my personality and my intellect in the safe environment of my room before disclosing the nature and severity of my impairment.It is fascinating to see how such a small change can be so empowering.