Of course, there are a few military girlfriends who give the title a bad name. They take advantage of service members and make poor choices.
Having a life in addition to the one with your service member will help you remember who you are as a person.
But there’s a reason the military men you meet, more so than other hot men in uniform (think firefighters, police officers, the UPS guy), are either in relationships, or don’t seem to have a lot of trouble meeting women. At the end of the day, most of these things are qualities any guy could bring to the table, if he really tried.
Military men just already seem to have it: Military guys have a higher calling; they’re committed to serving their country, and their loyalty to the nation will take them to war zones, disaster areas, and anywhere they’re called to. You’ve seen “Band of Brothers,” you’ve heard of “no man left behind.” It’s all true.
The nature of the role, with long hours and long periods abroad adds its own unique dating complexities. We have put together a few useful tips to keep in mind when you’re looking to date a military officer or anyone else in the armed forces.
These handy hints should help make it a little easier and ensure that your road to romance remains as bump-free as possible.
And I want to be clear: those of us who date or marry someone in the military are no better or worse than any other significant other.
They commit themselves to a purpose, and to one another, all for a greater cause. Just knowing that they are capable of devoting themselves to something else outside of themselves shows a level of unselfishness and integrity that frankly, a lot of people in general don’t seem to have. They haven’t all traveled the world on deployments.
But they know what’s going on in the world, because it’s their job to know, and for many, it’s the reason they joined the military in the first place. Articles about, well, dating, often get more views and social media shares than stories about ISIS and conflict in the Ukraine.
This could be military community members or civilians.
Establishing friendships and good relationships with others will offer you the support you need to overcome the ups and downs of military life.