2) Women, on the other hand, rate 80% of men as below average.Let me repeat: It’s women, not men, who have unrealistic standards for the “average” member of the opposite sex.A friend forwarded me an article about looks on the dating site Ok Okay, maybe it didn’t blow my mind, but it did validate everything that I’ve ever said about online dating.I’m going to do my best to summarize– and explain what you can learn from it. 1) Men have a very fair assessment of women’s overall attractiveness.
Don’t feel bad about noticing such discrepancies because you’re not alone. Let’s do a visualization exercise in which I’m setting you up with someone who is extremely attractive.
After coaching women for many years, I already suspected this, but this was a stark realization when you see just how few men you even find to be average looking. Ok Cupid reports that the most attractive women still receive 5X more email than average women and 28X more email than unattractive women.
Literally 2/3 of male messages go to the best looking 1/3 of women.
As you watch others watch your date, what’s going through your head?
Everyone is going to think something in this situation.