After that relationship the chorus of Song of Songs really spoke to me: “Do not arouse or awaken love until it so desires” (2:7, 3:5, 8:4).
I realized that more than just saying, “I’m not going to have sex until I get married,” that I also needed to protect my mind and my body from being “aroused and awakened” to that aspect of love too soon.
Nothing in my life and faith has been more confusing and spiritually hazardous than my pursuit of marriage. Maybe you’ve wanted the relationship or liked the guy or girl, and you’ve never had the chance.
Enjoy.) Jon Acuff and I went to Samford University. Temptation sold separately, batteries not included (bonus points for anyone who can identify this reference). If the boundaries are inscribed on papyrus leaves, you’ve both signed it…in blood…and in the presence of a notary (your pastor). Exclusivity and intentionality are ancient rituals, things of the past, and misplaced hopes. It’s not that this new line of thinking is necessarily untrue today, or that it’s not the current and corrupt trend of our culture. One of our most precious pursuits, that of a lifelong partner for all of life, is tragically being relegated to tweets, texts, and snaps, to ambiguous flirtation and fooling around. Therefore, only he can prescribe the purpose, parameters, and means of our marriages.If fullness of life could be found in sexual stimulation, or if it was just a matter of making babies, the “forget formality and just have sex” approach might temporarily satisfy cravings and cause enough conception.Anytime your body experiences pleasure—whether morally “good” or “bad”—the limbic system gets washed in dopamine. I don’t want to give you the impression that it’s to stop, but I’ve often mused that stopping once you’ve started down that path is like trying to cage a lion with string and popsicle sticks. (But be sure the check out the posts on that subject in our archives! For now, you need to know that who God created men and women to be plays out big time in the world of intimacy.That’s especially true if the person you are with has little desire to stop. I’ve literally talked to a girl who said, “Jessie, I don’t know what to do.