However, as one responder pointed out, expecting the man to pay on a date makes sense because of that pesky ol' wage gap, which was definitely an interesting stance to take. Because it's awkward to be like, ' I would really like to go on that fancy date you asked me on, but I don't have money to pay my half or something.' But then once you hit past three dates, it's fair to start splitting the bill, unless it's a special occasion or something," says Sabrina, 27."First date? If a guy is definitely the one pursuing me and on the first date we're having a decent time and he tries to go dutch ...
I'm not gonna say it's a dealbreaker, but I pretty much look at him like he's a cheapskate. If the guy pays on date #1 and we agree to go out again, it's 99.9 percent guaranteed that I'll pick up the check on date #2.
While I don't know that bus passes are something that most people concern themselves with this side of the last Clinton administration, the general sentiment hasn't changed: when you're dating, somebody should be footing the bill for both of you.
At some point, we collectively decided that if we were going to put ourselves through the sex preamble we pretend is about getting to know one another, there should be a free movie, meal, yoga class, or some other type of monetary transaction involved, depending on what type of psychopath you're most inclined to date.
Even more surprising, a frugal five percent responded that it would be a great idea for their date to even pay for the entire evening.
When we're Once you're solidly in a relationship, I think there are certainly times when a paid-for date wouldn't go unappreciated, but after a certain point, it feels like you're handing money back and forth.
When your relationship becomes transactional, the romance slowly fades until you're basically just roommates with boundary issues.
While it's always fun to be treated by anyone, date or friend, for many, splitting the bill on a date just seems like the "right" thing to do. Before I give anymore away, here's what the ladies had to say about splitting the bill.
It's not only fair, but seems completely normal in a society where the majority of people, no matter their gender, have an income. Whoever asks for the date, should be the one who pays."First date: it's up to whoever asked. But if it's something special that I've set up, it's all on me," says Jen, 36."I think in the beginning, whoever asked for the date should pay, just out of courtesy, and the fun of dating.