Wait for them to come to you.”The advice came from my dear friend Jennifer, who has a stepfamily of her own and understands that it takes time and patience to blend and bond. Months later, in a quiet moment, I told the girls as much, and let them know it’s OK to have any range of feelings about all this. But life had gotten busy, and for a few days I was swiping right on Coffee Meets Bagel without my normal due diligence. Both seemed nice, but I was having trouble keeping them... Like a puppy dog, I wanted to cuddle up to them and play, but I remembered her advice not to overwhelm them, so I pretended like this was all no big deal, and tried to find the feline inside.A lot of the time these ideas are plain wrong (we can thank romantic comedies for that).Because of that, some of us might not recognize the real thing when it comes our way. I normally Internet stalk my online dating connections pretty thoroughly. But life had gotten busy, and for a few days I was swiping right on Coffee Meets Bagel without my normal due diligence. Both seemed nice, but I was having trouble keeping them...
And even worse, it seemed that the harder I tried to be sentimental and lovey-dovey, the less it was reciprocated. Or, once we had a daughter, when I shared the responsibility of watching over her. Because as our marriage progressed, I found myself offering to help out around the house more and more. It took me longer than I care to admit to understand what was happening. Through giving, through doing things for my wife, the emotion that I had been so desperately seeking naturally came about. An emotion that, once had, somehow magically stays within a marriage forever. And I’m saddened to think about how much those messages bounced around in my head for so long.
And even when I let it out of my chest, it wasn’t love. Telling someone you love them doesn’t mean that you do.
A lot of us have ideas about what love should be, what it should look like, and how it should feel.
For many, it's more than doubt about whether the Law of Attraction is working. Once you know you have them, you can start destroying and uncreating everything that is holding you back, thus allowing your desire to come to you.
Some are afraid that they are creating their desire which is bringing up a lot of resistance. And, most importantly, allowing you to keep your desire because if you don't eliminate the resistance and limiting beliefs, your vibrational alignment can easily shift, allowing your desire to slip through your fingers and pass out of your life as quickly as you received it. You don't need to doubt whether the Law of Attraction is working. Trust that your life is unfolding exactly as you desire.