Note: While this post pertains to dating advice and dynamics, it’s also entirely relevant for general social pursuits – eg.
Expressing interest in a platonic friendship of someone you admire, or forming a business/professional relationship.
The site "serves" profiles to you, so views are going to happen whether someone is interested or not. Once, again I contacted customer service & received no response but continued to be sent profiles of women.
If you do message someone, they can't reply unless they upgrade OR you upgrade your account with an option to ensure they can. After viewing over 100 pictures ONLY the "Ideal Match" was rarely someone I would like to meet and of those that I did message, I received no response. Experiences with the daily "smart pics" are similar. Both times I specifically checked off "woman looking for a man". The first time I contacted customer service & received no response, so I deactivated my account. I have deactivated my account & will never have anything to do with them again! I hesitated to subscribe to Zoosk but it came up as the number 1 dating site so I did it. They edited my about me because I said I was leaving the site.
Don’t get too caught up on being a good match on paper, because there’s a lot more factors that you’ll never be able to figure out.
Now you have to ask yourself, is my profile as good as I think it is?
Please know that I’m in the trenches right along with you, and the things I’m about to discuss — including the “tough love” I’m about to dish — applies to me as much as to many of you.
I'm not sure how they curate potential partners but there doesn't seem to be any logic to the method. I got a very low rate of replies and began to wonder why. (In other words, Zoosk was letting me waste my time sending messages that could not be read unless recipient had a subscription) Only someone with subscription can reply UNLESS I pay another 9.99/month for "premium messaging." I called Zoosk and ask how many of the advertised number of members were actually subscribers and they would not tell me. I now think this was a Zoosk employee who was writing me the 2 weeks. When I called to ask for a refund because the matches did not meet the parameters I established on the site, the rep said that there are no refunds. I'll just find other venues because these dating sites are just not worth it. They reactivated my subscription after I unsubscribed and debited my MC card without my authorization. They are preying on singles and trying to milk them to the very maximum. And if you do not upgrade to their premium service or use their coin system to be sure your message is delivered you may get your feelings hurt by not receiving at least a reply. If they added some new profiles, they were members without subscription that I couldn't not send messages.
You might share the same interests, you might be looking for the same things in life, you might even be perfect matches for each other personality-wise, but chemistry is not something you can capture through a dating profile.
It’s possible that these people aren’t finding you physically attractive, or that you’re not tall enough, or maybe they just don’t like your haircut, or a countless number of other factors.
In my role at e Harmony, I’ve talked with and observed conversations between thousands of singles via e Harmony’s Facebook page, Twitter, and in other social media outlets and online forums. ) the many ways in which we online daters are our own worst enemies and play a critical role in our own of success.
In the interest of seeing more of us succeed in our quest for love, I am putting it all out on the line — pouring my heart out to share these observations and tips with you.