Just because they are your parents and you don’t agree with them doesn’t make them dumb. Although far from perfect, they have years of experience and wisdom you don’t.This can allow them to see the character faults in your bf/gf a whole lot easier than you, especially if you’re blinded by the deep emotions you feel for your bf/gf. They have the advantage of perspective or big picturethey realize over 90% of high school dating ends up not working out.The fact of the matter is most people spend very little time researching and getting to know the other person before they start dating, they just jump into the relationship. They have fears of unwanted pregnancy, date rape, drug use, physical abuse, or simply having their children get a needless and unnecessary broken heart.Carolyn commented she first had to try and figure out why her parents didn’t like her boyfriend.Surely it won’t be the first time you’ve encountered it together?He’s old enough to be your dad and you would never be able to introduce him to your immature friends or horrified parents. You look a bit older than your years; he looks a bit younger The pair of you hit a sweet spot where you just about get away with being a couple in public without attracting judgemental stares. He needs no pointers or subtle hints about what he should be wearing. He treats you like a lady An older gentleman is incredibly sexy. A man with experience knows not to remind you of all the effort he made last weekend. His mates don’t come into it You see each other when you’re both willing and available and all the attention is on you. He teaches you things He’s like an encyclopaedia of the world. He has wonderful snippets of trivia to contribute to almost every conversation. He appreciates every inch of your youth Things that boys take for granted he notices and marvels at for hours. He loves your lust for life He thrives on your spontaneity and fearlessness. It’s clearer and easier than many of your previous relationships.(This period of silence will be short.) Your chap’s job is to keep his lips zipped while you and they thresh out why you kept him secret for two years. As the poster children for May to December romances, Ashton Kutcher, 33, and Demi Moore, 49 on Friday, scuttle around consulting divorce lawyers and making snide remarks on Twitter, the natural cynicism that most people have about big age gaps has been given some high-profile ammo.
He has great dress sense He’s had years to find his style and he’s used them wisely. You had them on posters up on your wall and now you’re sitting opposite a lookalike at dinner. He doesn’t make a big deal out of his dating skills ‘It’s your turn to plan a date’… You’re free to enjoy each others’ company without such expectations of the other person.
I have been living with my boyfriend for two years and haven’t told my parents. We’ve now decided that we want to get married but I have no idea how to let my parents know without getting a painfully negative reaction, as I haven’t even told them I have a boyfriend VICKI Bang on their door together and step over the threshold together.
But you do the talking: ‘Mum, Dad, this is X, we’re in love and we’re getting married.’ If the Aged Ps are anything like me, they will be so gobsmacked that their immediate reaction will be neither negative nor positive but simply open-mouthed shock.
What do you do when your parents don’t approve or feel that the person you love/dating is the right person for you? And while I like to maintain a separation between church and date, I don’t think your culture can be entirely ignored here. So if your parents are super-caring and attentive, they’re likely to be overprotective.
Do you respect their wishes and find someone who is welcome at home and around your family, or do you follow your heart and stay with the person you love even if your parents may not attend the wedding? I’ve explored this concept before, in relation to successful women, but I think it applies to Judaism as well. If they’re intelligent, they’re likely to be opinionated.