" If you answer these questions sincerely and still want to date him, you then face the problem of making it happen - or rather, making him make it happen. They fall outside of the predator-prey model for sexual interactions that is assumed in the "don't initiate contact" rule.
So it is acceptable for you to initiate with a shy guy. The problem with male shyness is that it wears off in specific situations.
Over the past few years it seems that almost every dating dilemma I hear from my coaching clients and girlfriends has something to do with the texting. He told her how busy he was and she felt flattered that he was keeping in touch.
Expecting him to move on to something more serious isn’t realistic. There are so many ways to know if a man is a serious guy who is interested in getting to know you. It’s a type of false connection that sets up incredibly unrealistic assumptions and expectations.The first thing to do when you find yourself attracted to a shy man is to question your feelings for him.In other words, ask yourself "Am I attracted in spite of or because of his shyness? A very close friend of mine is extremely shy, and I know plenty of other guys that are shy. Shy guys, almost by definition, do not have the balls to initiate and pursue women.We have all been there...seated at a formal table, and thought, "Omigosh, which fork am I supposed to use? One more bit of table advice: Wait until your hostess is seated before you start eating. If you are a parent, even if your own style is very informal, please teach your children how to handle this situation, so that when they encounter all that cutlery someday, they are not unnerved." Relax, there is an easy way to remember: Work from the outside in. (See also: 11 Rules of Excellent Houseguest Etiquette) The thank-you note is essential in both everyday life as well as in business correspondence.